Become an active member of the treatment team, engaging from the start with your oncologist about treatment decisions and the management of your cancer. Dr. Harold Benjamin, founder of The Wellness Community in the United States says, “people with cancer who participate in their fight against cancer will improve the quality of their life and may enhance the possibility of their recovery”. So how do you do partake in your cancer care and treatment?

• Be well informed - gain information from your doctor about your diagnosis, treatment plan and the side effects of the drugs.
• Keep track of all your medical care and emotional experiences in a file or journal so that you have all your information together and can see your progress.
• Develop a specific plan to deal with the physical and emotional side effects that you might experience. Write it down.
• Remember, your experience is unique and your body will react to your treatment differently to others. The side effects described on this site are general, and your experience could be different.
• Create a strong support system. Express your needs.
• Spend time doing things you love. Plan some fun-filled events.
• Surround yourself with the people you choose to be part of your team.
• Negativity has no place in this fight. Do not listen to negative cancer stories and avoid people who are negative, or make you feel negative.

Your cancer treatment is one part of your strategy to deal with your cancer. Developing a holistic action plan to help you manage your experience is crucial. Spend some time writing it down. Set small, achievable goals in all areas of your life. Some things to consider may be: Conserving your energy by:

• Asking others to help you and delegating tasks.
• Taking short naps.
• Planning activities with realistic goals.
• Walking daily or developing an exercise routine.
• Limiting caffeine, especially in the evening.
• Drinking water - at least 4 to 5 glasses per day.
• Eating a well-balanced diet.

Managing hair loss:

• Consult your hair stylist or visit a wig shop.
• Consider a short haircut before hair loss begins.
• Get hats, scarves or turbans. Be creative!
• Protect yourself from exposure to the sun and cold.

Address pain immediately:

• Pain affects quality of life and dampens hope. It can also impact relationships.
• Remember, pain does not mean advanced disease.
• Addiction to pain medication is rare in people with cancer.
• Speak to your doctor about any pain you may experience

Dietary needs:

• Good nutrition can assist your body during treatment, so it is important to take control of your nutritional needs.
• Consult a dietician and get sound advice. Do not buy expensive supplements. You need to create a sustainable diet. Decide what you are comfortable including in your diet, making sure it is nutritious.
• You may need to adjust your portion sizes depending on your appetite, but it is vital to ensure you are nurturing your body throughout treatment.
• Increase your fluid (water) intake during treatment. Water enables your body to discard damaged cells and assists in the rebuilding of healthy cells.

Other aspects of cancer management could include:

• An exercise plan.
• A spiritual plan.
• A plan for dealing with your emotions creatively.
• A plan for regular fun family activities.
• A plan to achieve your personal goals.

Taking a proactive approach to your treatment empowers you, and moves you away from being a victim towards becoming a survivor.

Here are some questions you may want to ask your oncologist:

• Where is my malignant tumour and what kind of cancer do/did I have?
• Has it spread? If so, where?
• How aggressively is my cancer growing?
• What symptoms will my cancer cause?
• Is there any room for doubt regarding the test results and diagnosis?
• If I seek a second opinion, can I take copies of my test results and x-rays?
• Are any other tests required? If so, what would they be diagnosing? Will further tests hurt?
• What symptoms are likely to occur if my cancer progresses?
• What are my treatment options?
• What treatment do you recommend and why?
• How often is the treatment necessary?
• What are the benefits versus the risks of the treatment?
• Is the treatment aimed at a cure, remission (control) or response?
• What are the likely side effects of treatment?
• How can these be minimised?
• How much will the treatment cost?
• What should I do/not do while having treatment?
• How long will it be before I know if the treatment is working?
• How severe will the pain be and how can I manage my pain?
• What are the long-term side-effects of treatment/medication?
• Is there a possibility of my cancer metastasizing or getting a second cancer?
• Who will be in charge of my treatment?
• What can I read on this topic? Are they any resources you can recommend?
• Ask questions about medical terminology and its meaning.
• Write down your questions before you see your doctor. Go to your consultation prepared.

Bring a friend or family member along with you to appointments. They are welcome to join the discussion to help increase your and their understanding of your treatment.

Dealing with cancer can be very emotionally taxing. Uncertainty, chemical changes in your body and the anxiety associated with your treatment will have you navigating many different emotions. In time, you will come to recognise when your emotional wellbeing is at risk. Your emotional wellbeing is an essential part of managing your diagnosis and taking a holistic approach to cancer care. Symptoms to look out for:

• Feeling hopeless.
• Sleep disturbance for more than two weeks. This entails both sleeping too much or too little.
• Gaining/losing more than a few kilograms without reason.
• Racing thoughts that you cannot slow down.
• Preferring to be alone rather than with friends or family.
• Being overly sensitive to criticism.
• Feeling more irritable than usual.
• Feeling disconnected.
• Not wanting to get out of bed.
• Not doing things for fun.
• No longer laughing when you used to be joyful.
• Worrying all the time.
• Feeling as if no one would miss you if you were dead.
• Not see things getting any better in the future.

Emotional distress:

• Emotional distress is often ignored. Do not ignore it. Emotional distress can include anxiety, stress, depressions, mood swings, irritability, insomnia, fear, isolation, denial and loss of hope, and it can be signaled by the symptoms listed above.

How to handle emotional distress:

• Speak to a therapist. They can assist you in developing an action plan to manage the way you feel during treatment. Tending to your emotional state is an important part of your journey.
• Choose people you can share your feelings with and with whom you feel safe.
• Reach out to your loved ones. Do not isolate yourself.
• Remember, tears have healing power, so make space for sadness but also plan for fun!

• Open and honest sharing is key to navigating this experience.
• Do not try to protect each other - share the good and the bad.
• The supporting partner needs to realise he/she cannot fix this.
• Keep talking, although at times it may be difficult.
• It is okay to cry together.
• Allow each other alone time.
• Each person's reaction to cancer is unique - there is no right or wrong.
• Clarify expectations and set short- and long-term goals together.

  Sexuality and cancer: Living with cancer can affect your sexuality since cancer and its treatments impacts your hormones, body image, energy levels and emotions. Often this can influence your sexual functioning and drive. It is of the utmost importance that you discuss these issues with your oncologist or social worker, as this can strain a relationship. Communication is key.

There is no way to guard your children against your cancer diagnosis. Including children in the management of your cancer will allow them to be guided towards accurate, healthy and hopeful interpretations of the disease, while helping them to develop adaptive coping skills.   What to tell young children:

• Try to tell your children the news yourself. Children know when something serious if going on, even if nobody tells them.
• Keep in mind the age and past experiences of each child - KEEP IT SIMPLE.
• Tell each child enough to deal with his/her world and to satisfy his/her need for information.
• Expect to review the same information over and over.
• Use the word "cancer".
• Teach them that cancer is not contagious.
• Prepare them for the expected changes in a life-enhancing way.
• Help them to adjust to changes. Find a healthy balance between maintaining routines and making necessary expectations.
• Empower your children to contribute to your comfort in a way that is appropriate for their age.
• Continue to keep all teachers and coaches up to date regarding your condition and how you would like your children handled.
• If you are unsure whether your children are coping, seek help from a professional.

After a cancer diagnosis, many patients treasure the time they have far more than before, and you are encouraged to make the most of it. With our holistic approach to cancer treatment, we aim to make you as comfortable as possible no matter how your journey goes.